When you come to a restaurant and you want a chicken curry you don't go: "Please give me something tasty" hoping your waiter would guess it right. Why do we do the same with our life and let it float? * Note: If you want to download your Life Plan template scroll to the bottom. To get to know my personal story keep reading. I am a huge believer of life plans. In fact, I don't even have to believe because I know it to be true. It happened to me not once but twice and with such a precision that it just couldn't be a coincidence. When we let our imagination go wild and describe in details what we want the Universe just conspires to make it happen. I don't know how it does and honestly I don't care. I just know that it works and it's enough for me. When you use a microwave to heat up your food you don't necessarily know how it heats it. You just know that when you push a button and wait 1 min the food is warm. Think Universe a huge microwave and you'll be right. My miracle Number 1: My ideal woman A couple of years ago I was riding on a subway and instead of reading or checking my Facebook I was looking around at young women. I started thinking: "What qualities would I love to see in a woman of my dreams?" Not just a woman I'd like to date who has a nice body or a beautiful smile but a woman that would make my heart sink every time I look at her. I took out my phone and started jotting down some thoughts. Soon I felt like something was going through me and my fingers were flying on a keyboard. I wasn't thinking – I was describing as if I already knew her. I described big things and small details, how she is interested in intellectual ideas and that her ears are not pierced. How she does yoga and loves dogs. Her height, her temper, even her look when she is angry. I got so involved I missed my stop. I felt we were already communicating. Sure enough, I forgot all about it until this autumn when I was in Budapest. We were talking on Skype with my girlfriend Jing who at the time was visiting her parents in China and somehow this description came up. She asked me to read it, I laughed and went along. The more I read the more amazed I was at how much this girl in the description resembled Jing. Yoga, ears not pierced, feminism, her strong will, even that she sometimes doesn't allow me to eat more sweets because of the sugar – it all just fit. She was silent, I was too. She said it was the most romantic thing she ever heard and I was scared. How could this happen in such minor details? What are the chances of us getting together on the Camino where you meet hundreds of people every day, let along finding such a perfect match? It was scary and beautiful. I thanked the Universe and decided to trust that when we really want something it will happen. My miracle Number 2: My ideal life Another time happened just recently. I was sitting on the terrace overlooking the ocean writing to one of my clients when suddenly it struck me – I was living my dream. 3 years ago, maybe even day to day I had my first session with a career coach Anna who started with an unusual exercise. She asked me to go wild and describe my ideal day in details. What I am doing, how I feel, who is next to me, where do I live – everything. She said put no limits to it and imagine all is possible. I said some stuff that was great but too unrealistic for me at the time. I had no money, I was renting a room with my friends, I was single and had only recently found out that such thing as coaching even existed. Anna insisted and I put a date: "Feb 2018" because I figured it was far enough into the future. When you are 25, three years forward seems like a really long stretch. Yesterday I realised that it all came true. I was traveling, living 50 metres from the ocean with a woman of my dream and working with clients from different countries. What seemed impossible became normal. Life made wonderful. Two lessons for you from all this I am huge fan of learning from somebody else's mistakes and you can learn from mine. It took me three years to get where I am now but maybe I could do it faster if I had more courage. Don't let your life float aimlessly burdened by fear and give it a direction now. 1. Find time to dream or your life will stay the same Remember that restaurant and chicken curry? The chances are slim for you get what you really want unless you ask. Realise you don't really need courage, you just need to dare. Remember kids – do they need courage to ask Santa for presents? Of course not! They go all in and ask that car and that computer and a huge Lego and a Disneyland trip and a wish to be an astronaut on top of that all. They haven't yet leant to be afraid. Brush off that dust of disbelief and get ready to dream. 2. Don't be afraid to make big plans and make them happen sooner Remember I though I would take me 3 years to get where I am? Well, what if I said one year? How would my life play out then? I don't know but the chances are high I would find a way to make it all happen in a year. By setting the date we program our sub-conscious and give it an order. Set an earlier date than you think possible and you'll kick-start your mind to come out with plans to make it happen. Our lives are meant to be lived in a state of growth and expansion, not staying safe in a haven of small goals. Let’s think as big as we can to blow our mind with our dreams and then take massive action to get there. We think we need to follow a path that everyone is following but what if there is a shortcut? What if we can make a jump and cut through the unimportant to get to our dreams x10 faster? Just like they did in a movie Interstellar going through hyperspace and travelling light years in days. Thinking big is the fuel for your hyperspace life jump. Ponder, meditate, search for successful examples, fuel yourself with inspiration. And please don’t settle down for small. What's next? So, you are ready to make a life plan and you are ready to make it so big that it scares you. Good! For you I've made a simple guidance that will help you create your life plan. Find a quite place and one hour, take some paper or a laptop, a cup of your favourite tea and unplug from the matrix (meaning turn off Internet). Let your mind wonder for a minute and take some deep breaths. Open the document and start creating your future.
PS. If you've come that far you are my hero. Leave a comment below saying what you want and when you want it. I'll be happy to see your swing for the bleachers.
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